Advice

I have met this girl a couple times and I find her to be very cute. The last time I ran into the girl, I got tongue-tied and didn't want to make myself look dumb. Now I was thinking that I could go and search for her on Facebook and see if I can do introduce myself that way. What do you think? Or should I go about it in another way? - Lost and confused It's not the most direct route, but Facebook is a perfectly acceptable gateway to your crush's heart. I know because I've done it m'self a few times.

I'm almost 30 and have never been in a relationship. I blame this on a number of circumstances, but let's be honest. At this point, half the problem is that I'm almost 30 and have never been in a relationship. Even if I think someone is attractive, mentally or physically, I can't seem to convey that I'm interested without saying something along the lines of "Me Jane, you cute. " To make it even more fun, I'm active online the most, and while I seem to have flirting down there, finding people who aren't states away to flirt with in the real world is a gigantic hurdle.

I love men, and I gravitate toward dirty ones. Not dirty like kinky; dirty like rough and tumble, scruffy-faced and dirty hands. I also really enjoy those hands in special, delicate ecosystems of mine, if you get my drift. This has resulted in some issues, such as a lovely jalapeno burn down under from a guy who made me nachos one night and didn't wash after. I need a nice, sexy way to tell my men, "Wash your freaking hands before you go spelunking!" Advice? - Dirty but delicate By "a sexy way," you probably don't mean showing your sex partners governmental studies that indicate hand washing is the most effective form of infection control, followed by sad illustrations of hepatitis and feces-borne viruses during foreplay, right?

My question is about online dating. I'm a straight male who finds himself way more attracted to bi or gay females than straight women. This applies to sexual attraction, but even more so with emotional attraction. Speaking in blanket terms, straight women sometimes seem too prudish or conservative for my liking. And there's just something extremely attractive about a strong, self-sufficient, maybe tomboyish, gay female that really does it for me. So on to my question. Is it wrong for me to message females on OkCupid that have their orientation set to gay if my intentions are romantic?

I'm 32, single and haven't dated anyone seriously in the last decade and have only dated a few guys casually in that time. At my age, most of my friends are married and are now starting to have kids. I'm freaking out a bit. I want to get married and have a family, and I feel like time is running out. I haven't tried online dating because I really don't think it's for me, but at this point, I don't know what else to do. Any advice for meeting marriage-material men at this age? - Ready for Love I totally know what you mean.

I make considerably more money than my boyfriend. He makes a decent living too, but hasn't been nearly as ambitious in his career as I have been and has talked about wanting a new job for years. He says it doesn't bother him that I make more, but I think it does. I know he wouldn't want his friends to know and he still insists on paying for things. How can I make him feel better about this? And, sometimes I do judge him, not because he makes less money than me but that he hasn't tried to go farther in his career.

I'm terrible at talking to women in bars. I always feel so awkward, and never know what to say. On the rare occasion that I've gotten a few numbers from girls, it never leads anywhere. What can I do to get over myself? --Bar Not So Fly I doubt I'm the first one to suggest this, but maybe you should try meeting women somewhere other than bars? Bars are weird spaces. It's sort of assumed that women who go alone to bars are either very sad or desperately trying to get laid, otherwise why would they be there?

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