May 15, 2013 |
I'm wondering when is the best time, and how, to tell a prospective dating person that you are in a polyamorous relationship. Obviously before any physicality, but in a more granular sense, when? Call, text, first date?--Poly Wanna Answer When it comes to potentially delicate subject matters, I've found it's really best to say it with a cake. Or, if cake's not their thing, then a really large cookie, the kind that come in those delightful mall boutiques next to Orange Julius. Nothing says romance like “My penis likes you, just not exclusively!
May 8, 2013 |
I cheated on my boyfriend a year ago. We broke up for other reasons, but I still feel a lingering sense of guilt about what I did. Should I tell him about it or let it go? We talk and stuff, but I wouldn't say we're friends now exactly.--Too Little Too Late Unless it's to inform him about a strangely belated case of the clap, don't tell him. A confession this late in the game is pointless; it's just going to reopen an old wound that doesn't need to be opened. Doing so would make you feel better, but him feel worse.
May 2, 2013 |
I've spent the last year-and-half dating dudes from OKCupid, but now I'm in a place where I'm looking for a more serious relationship. I've been looking for alternatives to OKC, as well as meeting dudes IRL (in real life), and I've been thinking that JDate would be a good match for me. I was raised Catholic, and my family still celebrates Christmas and Easter, but I find that I have the best relationships with Jewish guys. What's the etiquette for joining a site like this when I'm not actually Jewish?
April 24, 2013 |
I've had a booty call relationship with a guy for a while. I haven't seen him in probably two months, but we used to hang out every couple of weeks. He's been texting me a lot recently to meet up, but I'm not interested in casual sex anymore. (I'm looking for an actual relationship). We don't really have a lot in common outside the bedroom, so it's unlikely we'll be friends. Do I have to “break up” with him? If so, how do I do it without hurting his feelings?--B.C. Blues A few years back I went on a date with a girl.
April 18, 2013 |
I am single and actively dating, and I recently received some advice from male friends that I should make myself less available to the men I date and try playing hard to get. My question is, does this really work? And if so, what are some effective strategies? - Mouse Seeks Cat You know, I was all prepared to launch into militant all-caps speech about how honesty is NOT JUST A TEA BRAND, but there is research that suggests playing hard to get does work in some instances. In a study published in the European Journal of...
March 27, 2013 |
Is it possible to support same-sex marriage at the same time that I don't support marriage in general? I respect and love my gay friends and certainly wouldn't want to deny them any of their rights, but I've never believed in marriage as an institution, and I find myself at odds. --Confused but Hopeful Dear Confused, For those of you who have missed all the hullabaloo and the red equality signs on Facebook and Twitter, the Supreme Court has been hearing two gay rights cases this week: Prop.