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July 3, 2013 | Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye's sex columnist
The old saying goes, "once a cheater, always a cheater. " I have the opportunity to date someone I'm really, really into and who is really, really into me. Trouble is, he was in a long-distance relationship several years ago in which he cheated on his girlfriend multiple times. Mutual friends of ours informed me of this, even though he's never confirmed it himself. The same mutual friends, however, assure me that they don't think he'll cheat on me. I'm torn. On the one hand, I want to trust my friends' judgment, and I really like this guy. On the other, I'll feel like a fool if I ignore the conventional wisdom...
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May 20, 2014 | By Sean Ely, @theseanwow and RedEye
Compare the dating scene a decade ago to today's vibe and you couldn't have two more opposite entities. Texting, sexting, Facebook messaging, Tinder using, Snapchatting … the list goes on and on. Enter Aziz Ansari, a South Carolina-born comic who can not only riff on the subject, but draw from personal moments that prove "we're all dealing with the same nonsense," he said. Ansari, 31, best known for his role as Tom Haverford on NBC's "Parks and Recreation," is in the midst of his "Modern Romance" comedy tour, which lands in Chicago for four shows (7 p.m. and 10 p.m....
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September 19, 2012 | Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye's sex columnist
It's fall! That means it's time for another quick 'n' dirty style advice column. Oh yeah. If you missed the last one, read the summer quickies here . I'm so awkward at parties! How do I make conversation without looking like a doofus? Approach people who are alone rather than in a group because you'll be less intimidated and you'll get that person's undivided attention. Ask basic, neutral questions: "Who do you know at this party?" "Is that a Mexican car bomb you're drinking?"
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March 20, 2014 | By Matt Lindner, @mattlindner and For RedEye
Simulating your most intimate moments on stage sounds like a daunting task. National air sex champion Kate Anderson says quite the opposite.. "It's exhilarating," the 26-year-old Edgewater resident said. "I think it's a really joyous, sex-positive experience. Everybody in the audience is on your side. Everybody is amazed at how brave you are. " She follows that up with three words you'd never expect to hear someone who goes by the stage name Cuntastrophe use to describe her craft.
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November 21, 2012 | Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye's sex columnist
I've been out of the sex game for a while, save for a very casual relationship that happens sporadically. However, I met a girl recently and sex is imminent. I'm excited about it but worried because I'm having a hard time letting people touch me, just relaxing and enjoying sensation. My last relationship was largely sexless and took a serious toll on my ego, and now the little sex I have had in recent months is fraught with anxiety and over-thinking, and I don't want that to happen this time.
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June 6, 2012 | Anna Pulley and RedEye's sex columnist
I have met this girl a couple times and I find her to be very cute. The last time I ran into the girl, I got tongue-tied and didn't want to make myself look dumb. Now I was thinking that I could go and search for her on Facebook and see if I can do introduce myself that way. What do you think? Or should I go about it in another way? - Lost and confused It's not the most direct route, but Facebook is a perfectly acceptable gateway to your crush's heart. I know because I've done it m'self a few times.
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September 5, 2012 | Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye's sex columnist
I'm 28 and a young man of 21 has been showing interest in me. I have known him for many years because he lives two blocks away and his parents are friends with mine. I also have a 19-year-old brother who looks up to him. I have been getting to know him, but we have yet to go on a date. I'm nervous about it. I am attracted to him and would like to give him a chance, but sometimes I think this could backfire. He is very focused on school and he works full-time, and from what I know is a really good person.
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October 2, 2013 | Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye's sex columnist
My dating life for the past few years has been hit-or-miss. Not only in trying to find that special partner, but also trying to conquer some life obstacles. A big reason is that I have Asperger's syndrome. Even though I've been more outgoing than ever in my lifetime, I'm still mentally restrained by my social behavior. There are moments where I have to rely on a friend to help me get involved in a conversation or just keep me from panicking in public. Even physical contact is hard to pull off. Just a friendly handshake...
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December 30, 2013 | Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye's sex columnist
Dear Anna, I'm really struggling with relationships for a number of reasons. I've known I was a lesbian since I was 14. I am now in my 20s and things really haven't gotten any easier. My parents still do not accept it, and I find that I'm having a harder time accepting it than I used to. When I am in a relationship, my parents, some siblings, and various other relatives refuse to meet the girl, and I usually only tell some people. I honestly think half of the people I know think I'm straight.
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October 9, 2013 | By Tracy Swartz, @tracyswartz and RedEye
Good news, CTA riders, you can stop worrying about hurrying to transition to Ventra, the CTA's new fare payment system. The CTA'a announcement Wednesday that it has brought back options for users of the old fare card system has bought you some time. CTA President Forrest Claypool said Ventra is tripling its customer service call center to 300 workers but that may take "several weeks" because the employees have to be trained. Riders should give the CTA some time to do that before switching to Ventra.
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March 19, 2014 | By Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye
It's spring, which means it's time again for another round of quick and dirty advice! If you missed the winter edition, you can read it here .  Now let's shed one of our outer layers and get hot and bothered and informed! . What does it mean if he asks you out and you're going in a group with his friends? It means that he'd like to hang out with you and with his friends, i.e. in a low pressure atmosphere, so you can get to know each other without having to worry about datey things like who will open doors for whom and who will pay for all the strippers.
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February 13, 2014 | By Ernest Wilkins, @ErnestWilkins and RedEye Sound Board
Valentine's Day is upon us, and if you gents aren't especially proficient in the art of love, you might be struggling to figure out what to do for your special someone. Luckily, we've got your back. We recruited the guys of JODY, who produce sultry R&B by way of the Andromeda galaxy, as well as their co-horts in The-Drum to help you get it together.   James King (singer, JODY aka The GTW ) I recommend buying yourself the 4-foot-tall Vermont Teddy Bear. That's pretty much the only thing I'm hunting for related to...
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February 5, 2014 | Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye's sex columnist
I'm 29 years old and have always sort of felt like I was in a "grey area" sexually, not overwhelming attracted to girls (though I did notice them), but not overwhelmingly attracted to guys on a physical level either (in fact, of the guys I've dated, I've never felt any real physical kind of connection toward them. Before, I thought it was just because we were a bad match, but now I wonder). I've gotten crushes on both girls and guys before but just thought maybe I had the crushes on the girls because I was attracted to a quality of...
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January 30, 2014 | Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye's sex columnist
Hi Anna, I started dating this guy, and though we weren't "official," it bothered me that one of his female Instagram followers was obsessed with him. He claims they've never met, but she put his full name with a heart in her profile. He won't block her either; am I wrong to be upset?--Social Media Ruins Lives A friend and I were talking not too long ago about how Instagram is the least annoying social media site. Facebook is overrun with racist comments and pictures of your friends' fetuses.
SPORTS
January 30, 2014 | By Your New York Friend and For RedEye
Hey, it's me, your one friend who moved to New York City, you know, to pursue acting/art/music. Things are going great. This week "Blue Bloods" filmed in the restaurant where I wait tables. And I'm pretty sure I saw Dennis Quaid on the street yesterday. Only in New York! But I have to admit I miss Chicago. You don't put your garbage on the sidewalks. So quaint! As you know, the Super Bowl is coming to New York this year and we are mildly excited. And by "New York" I mean New Jersey, which is like our Milwaukee.
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January 23, 2014 | Anna Pulley, @annapulley and RedEye's sex columnist
I'm a 21-year-old, straight male and lately every time I see a woman I'm remotely attracted to, I just feel sad. My last breakup was really bad and it took me a while to even think about dating. I really want to be in a serious relationship, but nothing has worked out (going to bars, dating sites, school, etc.). I've met a lot of really great women I'd love to date, but they never feel the same way or they barely notice me at all. Part of me feels like a creep or objectively unattractive, but my friends disagree, and a large portion of these women actively...
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January 16, 2014 | By Matt Lindner and For RedEye
Contrary to popular belief, the Cubs' official mascot in 2014 won't be a drunk 21-year-old bleacher bro from Schaumburg as it has been unofficially seemingly forever. Late Thursday afternoon, the team put word out that it's looking for someone to fill Clark the Cub's cartoonishly large head for the upcoming season. As anyone who has ever been a professional mascot will tell you, the wearer of the costume will have a tall order ahead of him or her: Entertain the fans without getting in their way.  In fact, Clark of the future, my first two jobs after finishing a master'a degree were...
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