Invite your significant other to Christmas with the family?

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December 17, 2013|By Anthony Roberts and Nikki Lynette | For RedEye

The setup: It's the holiday season, prime time to introduce your significant other to your family, right? Right?

YEP

The holidays are all about togetherness. The people you choose to include in this special time can enhance the already festive feeling of the season. So if you've got a special person in your life, bring him or her to share in the Christmas festivities with the fam.

It's not just about the present; it's about the future. If your family is as important to you as mine is to me, having your mate get along with them is crucial.

Inviting your new main squeeze to kick it with you and yours for Christmas will immediately show you how they interact with the people you care about most. If they can handle your crazy cousins and uncles after they've been repeatedly dipping in the eggnog, they're a keeper.

It can definitely be a little awkward at first—that's a given. But once you get past the initial introductions, it should be fine. One of my friends brought his new girlfriend to Christmas dinner a few years back, only to find out she'd previously dated one of the other family members. (Scouting. Yet another reason to bring them to the gathering.)

Don't be a scrooge. Extend the invite to your mate to share some fruitcake with you and your people. Anthony Roberts is a RedEye special contributor. @antthewriter

NOPE

How much quality time do most of us get to spend with our families these days? Between work and/or school, time with the homies, and the crippling demands of an active online social life, bonding with the fam can be hard to factor into the schedule. The best part about holidays like Christmas is hanging with your relatives and reconnecting as a family. That's why introducing your new boo to the family at Christmas is not an awesome idea.

I have been the girlfriend being introduced to relatives on Christmas. Presents were being exchanged, long conversations about cousins I'd never met were being carried on, and I was just there. Smiling. Feeling awkward. Do you really want your family's first impression of your new boo to be them politely declining a heaping plate of grandma's home-cooked food because they are lactose intolerant? Or to have them sitting there quietly as everyone around them opens gifts, none of which are addressed to them? Have mercy.

Unless your boo is about to be upgraded to wifey or hubby, there is really no place for him or her at your family's Christmas festivities. Any person who willingly goes to your fam's Christmas Day gathering is either a brave soul who should be considered marriage material or they're crazy and will probably never leave your life without a restraining order. RedEye special contributor Nikki Lynette, a Chicago native, is an indie recording artist whose music appears on MTV, VH1, Showtime and more. @nikkilynette

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