This past weekend, I came across a letter I wrote in 2007 as a senior at Florida State. Here it is below in full with annotated notes from me in 2012. Send this to your little brother or sister.
As i sit here, blowing off my International Organizations Final, I think back on the past 4 years, and what lessons i learned. Let's get into it, eh?
~Gentlemen, getting a girl to date you isn't hard. Here's how it works.
You see that hot girl over there? Yeah, her. Go say hey.
Stop being nervous. Have a conversation. Listen more than you talk. Listening works because you can tell if you want to be with someone within 2 minutes. Also, stop thinking you're striking out. Why are you worried? She's talking, right? oh, s**T..she paused. Ask her out for dinner, NOW.
She said yeah, didn't she?
(Note: If this didn't work, she's either: dating someone, or not attracted to you. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Nut up, and move along) (2012 Ernest: Not the classiest way to get to the point, but it's got some logic. What are you scared of again? Ask the girl out.)
~Talk to EVERYONE. Don't be fake, making friends with everyone is a dumb move. Be friendly, and you'll see the benefits. Your network is your net worth. (2012 Ernest: Yup.)
~Get yourself some different groups of acquaintances. This is your format. I'm a guy, so my view is skewed. Adjust if you need to.
Your true friends: More often then not, you live with these people, but these are the people you associate with on the daily. You might know them from home. Either way, you know who they are. (2012 Ernest: "Either way, you know who they are." GREAT POINT WILKINS. Jesus.) Make sure two of them are girls. More on that later.
The Rockstars: Your link to this group will be found freshman year. More often then not, Facebook holds your bond together..This is the group that quite simply WILDS THE F*** OUT. At any point, you can hit them up on the weekends, and just get wild. There's no deep friendship here, don't get sad when they forget your birthday, It is what it is. (2012 Ernest: This doesn't change as you get older.)
The Work-Friends: If you've ever had a job, then you know what i'm talking about..89% of the conversations at parties concern how much of a jerk your boss is. The other 11% are gossip. That's real talk. (2012 Ernest: This doesn't either.)
The Randoms: No one knows where these kids come from, but you see them from time to time..Girls, you tend to go to lunch with these people because it's "BEEN FOREVER!" There's no connection here, but if you see them, you're allowed to use them to cut in line.