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Make room for daddy at the DILF party

July 31, 2012|By Tony Peregrin | For RedEye

Move over, MILFs.

DILF--the daddy of all theme parties this summer--is a new monthly event for gay men over 35 and their younger admirers. Hosted by former International Mr. Leather winner Jason Hendrix, 47, and local DJ and party promoter Marc Moder, 42, DILF's home is The Sofo Tap in Andersonville, just outside the purview of the more youth-oriented Boystown gayborhood.

For the uninitiated, a "daddy" in gay culture is generally defined as "a sexy, confident, older man," Hendrix said. "A daddy is completely different from a sugar daddy."

The inaugural DILF event July 7 drew record numbers, according to event organizers, despite the fact that the weekend saw something of a mass exodus of gay men to Saugatuck, Mich., and Bear Pride Week in Provincetown, R.I.

"If you are a hot, older gay man, and you were in Chicago that night, you were at this party," Hendrix said with a sly smile. "At times, it was 'nuts-to-butts.' "

"I remember the first time someone called me daddy," Hendrix said when asked about his own transition from young man to daddyhood. "I was in D.C. walking down the street in Dupont Circle just after I won IML in 2004, and some young guy called out 'Woof! Daddy!' and I was like, "OK, yeah, that works!"

"Embrace aging," Moder said. "It's happening.

"It's far sexier to stay in shape and let the wrinkles and grays come in or to let your bald flag fly. Guys who color their hair, get Botox or add fake hair come off looking older than they are. It may make them feel better, but in reality it makes them look shallow, old and insecure. Rocking your strengths is real self-confidence.

"Those 20-somethings love a handsome father-figure type. For whatever reason someone happens to find you sexy--just work that. I'm just working my age."

Expect a loose, casual T-shirt-and-jeans crowd at DILF, with an age range spanning mid-20s to 50s (and likely beyond). DILF's resident DJ Marc "Moose" Moder spins music from the '80s and early '90s.

"For gay male events that are more social in nature, less dance, you stick with a sexy, male vocal vibe with an emphasis on rock, alternative, synth and retro," Moder said.  "Like honey to the bears, if you want the daddies to come, then play music that represents them--masculine, sexy, older and hot. The vibe is fun, but not silly. The music compliments the mood I want to put them in and not what's hot with 18-year-olds, like a lot of gay clubs do."

Chicago isn't the only U.S. city with a thriving DILF party scene. The Faultline, a popular leather bar in L.A., and the upscale g lounge in New York City both host regular DILF events. The tag line for the Wednesday night party at g lounge is "Hump day is daddy's day--because nothing helps you get over your mid-week blues like a visit from Daddy."

For the second DILF event at The SoFo Tap, organizers decided to stick with their tried-and-true formula to attract Chicago's hot dads and hot lads.

"Well, we had to do away with the Hot Daddy Contest," Hendrix said when asked what attendees can expect from the next DILF event Saturday.  "With all the people that showed up at the first event, we know we won't have room for the stage."

The bar owners also are going to remove the barstools and tables to accommodate the anticipated at-capacity crowd.

"And that's it," Hendrix said. "We don't need any gimmicks or tricks to pull sexy daddies in the door. Silly rabbit, tricks are for kids."

DILF
Saturday (the first Saturday of every month), 9 p.m.-3 a.m.
The SoFo Tap
4923 N. Clark Street
773-784-SOFO

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