Hey! Pay for your own honeymoon

OPINION

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June 17, 2012|By Jessica Cantarelli, RedEye

Most of us have high school acquaintances-turned-Facebook friends who pop up on our feeds with updates that make us feel sorry for our 16-year-old selves. THOSE were the people we chose to befriend?!

The updates range from the TMI "friend" who posts frequent updates about catching her boyfriend in the act of cheating to the folks who write cryptic, passive-aggressive posts in hopes that someone will ask, "What's wrong?"

My problem lies a bit beyond the above examples—it's with certain "friends" who use social media as a platform to panhandle.

These iPanhandlers, if you will, have used Facebook to make personal sales pitches to their friends and followers—as in, just float me some green for no reason.

In my case, one iPanhandler is getting married this year, and like most brides to be, has a wedding registry that is accessible online. The memo she didn't get is: A) It's tacky when the only items you've registered for are green pieces of paper with presidents' faces on them (perhaps she also takes credit and PayPal?); and B) Your wedding registry is for your wedding guests only—not half the population of Facebook. If your non-guests want to give you a gift, they'll find a way to make it happen.

The couple clearly states their registry is to pay for a honeymoon, and they are flat broke (because nobody else is, right?) and this would be one way their friends and loved ones could really help them out. They call it a "non-traditional wedding gift," as if that helps candy coat the issue.

Now, don't get me wrong—I have compassion. As a bride-to-be myself, I know how expensive weddings can be, with even the simplest items costing an arm and a leg. ($200 for a cake topper? Really?!)

Sadly, it doesn't end there. I recently was invited via Facebook to a bake sale event to help this couple raise money for their honeymoon. Come buy some brownies and help us go on vacation? I've got an idea: Here's five bucks—buy yourself some manners.

Call me old-fashioned, but your wedding registry is the place to let your guests know which China pattern you have picked out or which blender to buy. Period. If you don't need those things—don't have a wedding registry at all. Your guests will get the hint.

Social media is a place to stay in touch or reconnect with people from your past, and give those people a glimpse into your day-to-day life, if you so wish.

It is not the place to ask the public for money or outrageous favors that you would never have the guts to do in person.

And to end with a personal note (you know who you are), please stop Facebook inviting me an event called "Shave My Back." Can I just give you a blender instead?

JCANTARELLI@TRIBUNE.COM | @REDEYEJESSICA

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